Fierce Conversations Principle 1

We’re starting the new year fresh with a video series on the book Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott. Each video will dive into one or two of the seven principles Scott outlines in her writing on how to have difficult conversations.

Today is Principle 1: Master the courage to interrogate reality

Transcript:
Hi, I’m Amy from Iluma Learning, and we have decided that we’re bored with our blogs, nobody wants to read that much anymore. So we’ve decided we’ll try doing some vlogging! And, part of what we are interested in is to give you a taste of something real. So I want to start with a book that’s been a big influence on my life and my work as a trainer and a consultant in Heavy Equipment. And that book is Fierce Conversations written by Susan Scott, and it’s been around for a long time. You can Google some great talks that she gives. If you just google Susan Scott Fierce Conversations, you’ll find all kinds of things about her. I love to use her work in my training with groups and what I thought we would do in this series is just take a look at the seven Principles of Fierce Conversations and talk through them a little bit.

So today we’re gonna start with that first principle. And the first principle of Fierce Conversations is Master the courage to interrogate reality. And Susan writes in her book, reality Can shift, people change and forget to tell each other. Not only do we neglect to share this with others, we are skilled at masking it even to ourselves. Ouch. I’m that person. I mean, things change all the time and then I wonder why I am frustrated when I keep doing the same thing that gets the same result or something in a relationship has changed. And maybe that is a relationship with someone at home in my family life, a friend, a coworker, a client, somebody that I’m working with and trying to support. Things change and we forget to tell each other about it and we don’t even tell ourselves. So if we really want to look at how to have a fierce conversation, and that really means according to the author, a way of having a conversation so that we get some kind of real change. And I know you know what I’m talking about. You will have had some conversations in your life that have been so powerful for you that they changed the course of your life or they changed the course of a relationship.

And so that is really the heart of this book. So our first step in that is to start to look at what is the reality of where we are today? What’s changed about our circumstances? What has changed about our feelings? What has changed about the facts? What, taste, values, opinions have changed within the confines of a relationship? And how are we gonna address it? So we’re gonna take a look at the second principle in our next block.